Don't want to get my hopes up I look at this as her basically asking me for a date. And a sleep over too. No I know we won't have sex but let’s recap
Date 1 pool game the right home Date 2 Dinner and then I was ready to go home and she wanted to stay out a little bit longer
Date 3? (Her date) a weekend.
Sounds like progress to me. 2 Months ago she would not give me the time of day. Also I notice a change in myself since I cut the pain killers. Yesterday my W took our S shopping; when they got back they had drinks from a burger joint in town. Before I would have felt bad thinking why didn't she think of me and call to see if I wanted anything (taking things too personal). But yesterday first thing I thought was oh they had lunch at a burger joint, great. No bad feelings.
NO I do not want to be "room mates" but it looks like the door may be opening.Did you read the card I was going to give her?
Husband
Last edited by husband; 07/02/0709:45 PM.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Not sure about the card, Husband. My first reaction was that it was too much. At the end it implies that she hasn't been meeting you half way. She might think she has; maybe not. Would that make her upset? You don't want anything to ruin your weekend away!!! HOW you say it makes such a difference (tone, look in your eyes, etc). Just READING a card may lead to misinterrupting. I would be tempted to keep it simple. Again, just my 2 cents (from someone who hasn't been very wise in her own sitch so hopefully you will hear from others!!!!!)
Matilda I think you are right. I think this weekend thing has changed allot of my plans. Like I said it looks like she is opening the door a little. I don't think I will send the flowers either I will just buy the watch and get a simple store bought card. Nothing to mushy. It really is like we are dating again. But I still remember those girls in high school that used to tell me "I like you like a brother...." Defiantly bringing some rum n coke.
I am planning on going out on my own Friday night...
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
H - I just went for it on our anniversary with a mushy card and actually got flowers and one in return. We had a great time and i just forgot about the crap for a bit. Go with your gut.. You'll do fine.
Yah.. I'm a great "friend" too. I'm really fun to hang out with
Yea I re-looked at it. I have a week to get this right took out the 1/2 thing added something. The flowers are still iffy. It is actually on a Sunday. We are leaving Friday soo Thursday is too soon and Monday is too late. Maybe I can find some when we are there. Maybe just one FRAGREANT one.
2nd try:
Words need not be spoken about the past. There is nothing more in this world that I want other than to start our marriage over again with the woman I love. I know that you are just as scared as I am and you are afraid to take that step. I want us to forget about the past that brought us the hurt and pain that we caused each other and start all over again. I want you to feel the passion, affection, love, and caring that I have to offer you. and was able to show you. You are very special to me and I don't want to give that up. We need to give this marriage the chance that it never had. I know we can do it if we try. But I need your help and love because I cannot do this on my own. We created a lovely baby made completely out of love, every day I look at him, he reminds me of the love we once held so dear. I think the most important step regarding moving on is to realize that things will never go back to the way they used to be. I do not want things the "way it used to be". WE can make it better. It takes a special bond and inner strength as a couple to get through this.
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Last edited by husband; 07/02/0711:23 PM.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Just a warning, if you give your WAS a letter like this, don't expect anything in return. If you are doing it because you want to say these things to her because that is the way you feel and you want her to know it, then maybe it is ok to give it to her but with absolutely no expectations. Do not give it to her with the hopes that it will change her mind. I have given my H quite a few letters over the last 7 months, and I have not got one in return. It has been very painful, but I needed to say those things to my H for myself. I needed him to know how I felt. The best letter that I wrote was the last one that I gave him. It was a goodbye letter (it is posted in my 1st thread somewhere) and it made no mention of OW. I gave it to him a few weeks ago and nothing has changed in my sitch since then, but I needed to do it for closure.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Know I have given her small thank-you notes (2) and have not had a response however I do know she has kept them. NO not snooping but I they were on pink paper and I saw one on the side of her night stand. I don't know. I have come a loooooog way. I am going to play it by ear. I won't give it to her on our Anv. Day because we will be away and it could end up uncomfortable. I am again leaning towards a card and I will write the letter but wait until the time is right. Maybe after out 5th or 6th "date. I would be writing it to let her know how I feel.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I like mushy cards, too! What if your anniversary card simply said something about your son reminds you of the love you shared and you are looking forward to a tremendous, passionate, caring future together. Just be positive!!!
Flowers at work are just neat because everyone at the office gets to ooohhh and ahhhhh over them.
