Congratulations!!!! I'm soooo happy for you. I wish this next half of your marriage a smoother, comfortable road, good memories and a loving friendship and partnership of growing old together.
my H picked that day to say "I love you"...I haven't heard those three little/big words in almost 3 years..
Hey imLin, I just had to tell you, when if first saw "3 yrs" on your post, I thought "wow, thats a long time" but it seems that's what it will be on my case too. Had a talk w/H, too long to tell the whole story, but he still can't say ILY. I point black asked him if he loved me and he said he "cared"for me. That he still feels nothing altogether, when he is around other people, just in general, doesnt' knowhow to be w/the kids and stuff. He really messed himself up when he was away, and it seems like he is still piecing himself together.
I actually told him i couldnt' live like this for years and cried (had a hissy fit I guess)
Now I m much more calmer and I really want to tell him that even though he can't say those words I do feel loved. He is very good to me, is trying to be more lovign, is very considerate and helpful, somethign I couldnt' have said about him before he left. I'm thinking of writing a letter and tell him that, that he waited all those years for me to love him and be good to him, even as I acted like a witch sometimes. That this time last year we were polite friends and now I feel so much closer to him and that he is being a good husband to me.
Yes, it must take this long for a lot of people, we must take it one day, month at a time, you can't hurry love.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Lin, that's wonderful news. And at the same time, sad that we have to live waiting for those words. Seems so unfair (mostly b/c I'm living it now).
Cat, my H also "cares for" me and cannot (and has not) said ILY in over a year. He said it once or twice last March and then claimed it wasn't so, and it disappeared for good. He does act lovingly toward me, as far as being supportive and 'taking care' of us, being thoughtful. There is no ML, which as you know, hurts me horribly, but he is slowly coming back to C with me (he'll be coming for the 2nd time since December next week).
Not to hijack Lin, sorry! Was laying in bed last night and this a.m. ruminating on things, and will just work it all out on the blog later today.
:::mwah!::: kisses to you. your patience and growth are paying off, and I admire you so much!
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
imLIN, just want to say congratulations. You are definitely helping me (and others) in keeping our senses and hopes up. I am just so glad for you.
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?
