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Then wear your skinny dude jeans -- hich your wife happens to think are very hot.

You've got every woman in your town flirting with you.

I think your butt must be very firm and tight to get this kind of attention.

And...I think it's a crime you don't allow spandex to cradle and display your ASSets more fully to the world.

You know -- the kind of ASSets that guys like to slap in locker-rooms.

Shapely, but firm. Not the kind that jiggle around like jello.

A firm and muscular gluteous maximus.

That's what I'm talking about.

You sure you don't want to go horseback riding with me in Montana?

--Theoden

MC,

Are you speechless?

Mr. Hotpants at a loss for words?

Or is it maybe you are really thinking about taking that horseback riding trip with me to Montana?

Heheheheh.

I'm sooo evil.

--Theoden.

Yea Theo I am speechless. More like horrified.

Anyway, the fit should hit the shan in the next day or so. MIL called to tell me that one of the church ladies, who is a ministers daughter sent CW a letter religiously chewing her out for what she is doing. MIL got a copy as well. She offered to read it to me and I declined. I wish people would leave us alone.

The good news is that you are not even remotely close to being in the middle of the drama. Let it play itself out. You just never know if it will have any meaning to Cw or not.

Well, the letter came in the mail today from the church lady. I brought it to her when we were going to the store together. She read it and instantly became pi$$ed at her dad. I have no idea what is in the letter, but she said that it said something about a midlife crisis. She then made a statement that everyone thinks that this all about her and nothing to do with me. She also said, you understand that it isn't all about me right? I replied, that I wish people would let us work this out between us. We went to the store, and when we were headed home, she was real quiet and crying. I touched her leg and tried to "comfort" her, but she pulled away as if she was mad at me.

When we got to her place, I carried in a box for her. She was still crying. I told her that I was going to hug her. I did and she was crying harder. I told her that it hurt me to see her like this and I would do anything to make her feel better. I slipped and told her ILY when I was hugging her. She started to cry harder and was having trouble talking. I told her I didn't want to leave her like this. She told me that it didn't matter. I also told her I would call later to check on her. She seems so conflicted. I wish people would leave us alone.

Mcojh

I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. It's amazing that although all of our sithches have things in common. We all see things different. You want the family to stay out of your problems and I wish mine knew about mine. I feel so alienated knowing what’s going on and trying to act like everything is ok around them. I have no support from them that I know I would have if they knew what she has done.

Husband

Well, she is getting pressure and I'm not so sure it's a bad thing.. No one is going to talk or reason her into anything but maybe give her food for thought?? I don't know... I'll tell you one thing - it doesn't seem like she's having too much fun with this whole scene anymore.

Hubby-You are right, the support is good. It is the interference and the attempts to make her change that are causing problems. In a way it may appear to help, but her getting so mad isn't really helpful.

LO you are right, I think some of this has to sink in.

MC,

Yeah, well, you can distance yourself from all this.

I think your answer to her statement, "It's not all about me, you know." was brilliant. "I wish they would leave US alone." You are in it WITH her. You are a genius.

--thedoen

MCOH
I hope you don’t mind but I am cross posting in all of your threads because I value all of your inputs and I want to make sure all of you see this. Please respond back in my thread thanks.

I found a “wife profile” test in the book I have been reading “the five languages of love” It about how different people need different things to feel they are loved. There is 1) touch, 2) words of affection 3) act of service 4) gifts and 5) quality time.

Buy answering these 20 questions it is supposed to reveal what your “love language is.
I have not asked my W for ANYTHING for the last 2 months. I was going to print this out and tell my W I am working on my problems and ask her if she would help me and would answer these questions for me. There is no writing involved you just circle a letter.

I’m going to ask her to answer these questions thinking what she would like her perfect husband to do.


What do you think?
Again I am sorry for cross threading this but it is important to me that I have all of your inputs.
(I a still going out Friday)

husband