H's sister called today. I have never been close to her (and we only see each other once every 4 years), so I was a bit surprised that she called. Both MIL and SIL said they would not call H until he calls them.
this is what is frustrating in my sitch. Nobody except the om my W and I know about the affair. I am around our familys and she acts like nothing is wrong. but I do think they sence something is not right,
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I am trying hard not to say mean things about H to my friends and family. I have no idea why I am protecting H's image. I am just plain crazy I guess.
While it may seem like you are protecting H's image, the underlying reason you are not saying mean things is because you are a gracious lady. It is a reflection of your strength of character, rather that anything of H. Brava, Matilda.
Matilda, you remind me of my sister-in-law. She was married to my H's brother for 26 years when he divorced her. She will always be my SIL and I love her like a S. She is one classy lady and continues to amaze me.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
H was over at 6am. He said he was up all night, but didn't think I'd like a vistor at 2am. He said the walls were closing in on him. He then asked if I'd like to go live on the boat for the next two months (not WITH him). I said I would, but he'd have to live with D16 during that time so he decided the boat would have to do. I also reminded him that it was his choice to move out. We talked a bit over breakfast and then I went to work.
He was so sad again. He's not sad because of the divorce, though. He's sad because his friends are not supporting him.
He's full of contradictions. He said he wasn't interested in dating. Then why sign up for an online dating service? He wants support from family and friends, but hasn't told his best friend or even his mother!
D16 is frustrated because we haven't moved yet. She wants everything settled NOW! We are all having our stuggles!
Matilda, I'm so sorry. It's interesting that you say that your DD wants everything settled now. I don't know how many times my DDs have said that, especially the 19 year old. I thought it was just my DD being a little insensitive. I guess they just get so tired of the turmoil.
Another thing we have in common is that my H didn't confide in anyone either. His best friend and his cousin who is like his brother heard it from their wives and didn't believe it. One of his friends said that people kept asking him what was going on with us, he said I don't know because he hasn't talked to me.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Hi Matilda - I can see reality dawning on the alien.
Originally Posted By: Matilda2
H was over at 6am. He said he was up all night, but didn't think I'd like a vistor at 2am. He said the walls were closing in on him.
He was so sad again. He's not sad because of the divorce, though. He's sad because his friends are not supporting him.
He is unlikely to know himself why he is sad, so no point in you speculating either. What is happening is that his fantasy is crashing around his ears. The glamorous life he expected is not manifesting, and he has not figured out why.
Now more than ever, it is important for you to figure out what YOU want, and stick with it. His roller-coaster has just started round 2, and you need to be so careful not to get sucked in.
Remember all the dbing basics. Make sure you smile a lot, let everyone know your life is heading in the right direction. Get fitter, the glow on your face will speak volumes. D16 may have the right idea, forge ahead with your plans, H is going nowhere.
Slowly