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RedHeadWife #1112885 06/27/07 03:37 PM
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How are you today? feeling ok?

You are very brave for confronting the problem and taking action.

I work in a health center and i have been told that people who have become addicted to a controlled substance should be weened from them. Please see a doctor to do this. May i suggest one that did not Presribe them as he should have been aware that this would happen. Im'e not a nurse and i know about addiction to controlled Meds.

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thanks for asking,

I'm doing fine, I was only doing 2 pills a day so I think my addiction was more mind than body. I had a little head acke last night but today I have not even though about it. The urge usualy hits about lunch time. Slept alot yesterday after I got home from work don't know it that has anything to do with it.

If things start getting out of control(MOOD SINGS) I will refill my prescription and talk to the doctor.
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Husband,

Yes it could be from coming Off of them. With only taking two pils a day you should be ok just stopping them. The mood swings if you get them Remember mind over matter. If you need to take them Please do not refill until you see your doctor as they can write you a script for a smaller dose to wean you off.

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i text messaged my W this mornig and asked if she wants to go out saturday for dinner and a little dancing. She called me and said she would like to go to dinner but didn't feel like going dancing.
Ok so I guess 1/2 is beter that nothing. this IS only our second date.

More later

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I have my second date with my W. I have not spoken about the OM, our marriage, relationship, sex nothing. I have given her space. In a strange way she has given me mine. She does not ask where I went. Has not asked about the money I have been spending lately. She has not once asked for a divorce. During our one joint MC session she mentioned living like room mates. (This would have been ok except she went and had sex with the OM).

I asked her out for dinner and dancing but she said she does not feel like going dancing but dinner would be fine. I think she is afraid that from dancing it might lead to intimacy. I think she may be holding back her feelings. Good or bad. She seems to not want to discuss them. So my question to you all is what should we talk about during dinner?

P.S our wedding anniversary is July 14th (17 years)


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husband,

What are your interests? What is catching your attention aside from being smashed to smithereens by your wife's affair? If you are not getting a life, you won't have much to talk about.

Or...ask her about her life, interests?

Read a good book lately?

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So theo

I should talk about some of the things I have been doing? She has not asked so this would be new to her.

Another thought. Should I tell her about the five languages of love book I have read?

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catching up....you've filled up 3 pages rapidly.

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I would play it by ear as far as talking about the book. It's a good book & all, but I would probably wait to talk about that kind of thing until you know that you really are (maybe) beginning to work on your M together.

It takes a lot of guts, and it truly sucks, but the one thing I had to finally do (which you are already doing) is no R talk. Keep going like you are going and wait for signals from her that she's ready to start working on your M with you.

Go to dinner, try to act 'as if' you are on a date w/ a new woman. What did you talk about w/ your 'friend' at lunch the other day? What would you talk about on a date w/ a totally new & different person that you had never been out w/ before?


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Hey cades-

I was advised by a good friend who is going through the same thing that I should have waited a little longer before this date.
Soooo NO R TALK, NO BOOK TALK. Just maybe comments about the Restaurant (we have not been there before). And very basic stuff.

As for the lunch that's tomorrow. WOW two "dates" in one week.

On my GAL my son and I are going to a 400 acre ranch for some "manly" off roading. It's a guy thing. I don’t think MC or Theo could handle it.

Later
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P.S. DAY 3 drugs free. Still little head ache but nothing I can handle.


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