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Yeah tell me about it. I have to get a job making so much in order to pay childcare and live. I've done the temp thing and trying on my own. So for nothing. Really frustrating. I really don't like the idea of my kids in daycare but at this point I need to do it. I need to know no matter what I can take care of me and my kids.

Yeah we have a joint account but since he's left he opened his own as well and that's where his check is now deposited.

Yeah I do it on both though I try to put a half way decent spin on the bad. Sometimes I can't though.

Course the only thing he took from his first marriage was his son and clothes. His son has long since moved back with his mom but...

Since DH left in May and I knew I'd need to find a "real" job, I signed up 7yo for the after school care for fall. The other 2 are old enough to be here by themselves for a few hours and 16yo is working on getting his license. Not that we have an extra car or extra money for an extra car or insurance... those kind of details will need to be worked out because 16DS will be taking college courses at the local CC and will need transportation. *I* could do it if I remained a SAHM, but...

I was kinda looking before he left too bring in more income for us. Not like I'm looking now... Yeah at the moment I can't remain a SAHM and make it financially. And even if he does decide to come back I need a job. He would rather we both are working so...

If I sit down and think about everything that I now have to do can be overwhelming. So I try to just take it one day at a time. Sometimes minute by minute.

Sad,

As far as the job hunt goes. This can actually be a blessing in disguise because it will focus your attention on something else other than your M. Although I probably buried my nose in my work to much in the beginning of my ordeal, it did give me an outlet from my situation. I've learned to transition to participating in more leisure fun now to occupy my free time , but concentrating on my work in the beginning helped.

Where was your last job before being a SAHM and what did you do? Like JD said, it will give you a sense of self-esteem. I know it's probably hard to do at this point, but don't think of it so much as a challenge and something you have to do, but as an opportunity.

Yeah I agree. It'll help keep me occupied. During the day at least. I find the hard times to be at night and the weekends when he would normally be here. Trying to do things during those times to help.

My last job was a daycare. Though I didn't mind the age group I had that job doesn't pay well enough for me to make it. I'm looking into clerical work. Yeah I'm sure it'll be good to get back out there and have more adults to talk to rather then kids.

I was kinda looking too!! So when DH decided it was time to leave, one of the things I said was I wished he had waited a little longer so I could have a job before he left. Guess he'd still be here waiting... LOL!!!

LOL yeah I hear that! I read a post on another site that this lady has been looking for 8 months and pretty much had someone tell her they wouldn't even consider her since she's been out of the work force for so long.... I though oh great.

No way!!! I don't want to be stuck in retail the rest of my life... LOL!!!

I tested really well with SOME agencies... lol... I'm keeping my fingers crossed. There has got to be SOMEONE out there who will hire me. I have a friend who is trying to get me hired on at her work. She works in this huge medical building. They have my resume and I'm supposed to be on the short list for any openings.

Yeah I have to work no way around it problem is I can't afford to just start out part time or for little pay.

Yeah I had a family member give my resume to a head person in a insurance company plus I've applied to a few jobs on their site. I put in for a job where my mom works but when she tried to mention it the person told her they would look at all resumes. Never heard anything... Something's got to come along sooner or later. Prefer sooner then later have bills to pay.

Doll up the resume and don't let them know you've been out of work this long. I'm not encouraging you to lie or anything like that, but you were doing all kind of sub-contracting work while you were at home.