[quote=NMHurting]STOP taking everything she says as the end. Give her some damn space, let her work things out. If she says she's done, say, "I'm sorry to hear that." Or, "I'd rather our marriage work but if you'll be happier divorced than giving our family one more chance, then all I ever wanted was for you to be happy." Let her chew on that, let her do all the D work, you just protect yourself and your kids, and let things work themselves out.
All of our W's have said they're done. Many of our W's have filed. You either DB and stand for your marriage, or you don't. Only you know when you've done all you can. Good Luck!
I think I need to write this on a cue card so that I can use it if the time comes.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
[quote=JR2007][quote=NMHurting]STOP taking everything she says as the end. Give her some damn space, let her work things out. If she says she's done, say, "I'm sorry to hear that." Or, "I'd rather our marriage work but if you'll be happier divorced than giving our family one more chance, then all I ever wanted was for you to be happy." Let her chew on that, let her do all the D work, you just protect yourself and your kids, and let things work themselves out.
All of our W's have said they're done. Many of our W's have filed. You either DB and stand for your marriage, or you don't. Only you know when you've done all you can. Good Luck!
I think I need to write this on a cue card so that I can use it if the time comes.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
I'm just reading her behavior...she has something up her sleeve.
She filed divorce, I filed a counter, she's been sitting on it.
I'm betting I get another set of papers by the end of the week.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
I pray that I am. Sadly...I know her way too well. She is in "get even" mode right now. The anger phase.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
We've had our good moments in that two years were things were right Jazz. Some lasted months.
She is my soulmate Jazz. She is it. She is THAT special one. You know when it's right.
That's why I fight it.
Last edited by NMHurting; 06/25/0711:09 PM.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
STOP taking everything she says as the end. Give her some damn space, let her work things out. If she says she's done, say, "I'm sorry to hear that." Or, "I'd rather our marriage work but if you'll be happier divorced than giving our family one more chance, then all I ever wanted was for you to be happy." Let her chew on that, let her do all the D work, you just protect yourself and your kids, and let things work themselves out.
All of our W's have said they're done. Many of our W's have filed. You either DB and stand for your marriage, or you don't. Only you know when you've done all you can. Good Luck!
I think I need to write this on a cue card so that I can use it if the time comes.
For me? I've already been through it. I've said those very things, I'm not helping her get the D one bit. I'm wide open to reconciliation if she wants it. I'm living, not just existing. I'm standing. I won't be done til the judge has me dragged out of the courtroom unconscious!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
She does. But I love her and her flaws. When things are right, she completes me man. No other way to say it.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
