I know what you mean it does not matter how much we try it looks like we are not noticed... I can't believe that we aren't though..they just can't say anything. Hang in there you are doing great, I know I keep telling you this but I really mean it. I know you are tackling 2 of the hardest things in you life ever and you are doing it with your head high...that means so much!!
Hang in there you are doing great, I know I keep telling you this but I really mean it. I know you are tackling 2 of the hardest things in you life ever and you are doing it with your head high...that means so much!!
LOL, only 2, I wish it were only 2. 4 is more like it, and non of the 4 standing alone would be easy. These 4 could drive anyone nuts, and since I am half way there, it just makes it that more difficult. I thought things only came in 3's, damn.
Just trying to humor myself.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
I know what you mean it does not matter how much we try it looks like we are not noticed... I can't believe that we aren't though..they just can't say anything.
I can attest to that not being true - we're noticed. Out S's are just in different states of denial, anger, confusion, etc. that we have to deal with. I didn't think I was being noticed and you know I have practically zero contact with my W. But she said things to me in our last meeting that PROVED she's been watching, hearing things, remembering things, looking for signs, whatever you want to call it. When she'd let her guard down, she'd say things that let me know she was watching.
789, it may have been that your W just wanted to see if you'd GO on the weekend, or go to work. You did the right thing. Yeah, you want your W to give you credit, give you confirmation, give you love for your acts, but she's not ready for that OR is going to run a few more tests before she's ready to let her guard down to you. Who knows?!?!?! You just have to be there for her and your son when the opportunities present themselves and learn patience (yes, join me will you? ). Yep, it sucks. it's not fun, "why can't she just COME BACK NOW?!?!?!?" LOL, I know the feeling, believe me, I know the feeling. It'll all be good in the end, and if you play your cards right, you'll look back at this time and the refiner's fire that created the fantastic marriage you have at that time.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Absolutely, sometimes all of this feels like a rigorous series of test and trials but if we persevere the outcome will be positive even if it does not work out. At least we have bettered ourselves and kept our integrity.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
I disagree a little. I think some of the WAS's don't want to look for the changes, and choose intentionally not to notice or digest them.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Absolutely, sometimes all of this feels like a rigorous series of test and trials but if we persevere the outcome will be positive even if it does not work out. At least we have bettered ourselves and kept our integrity.
With whatever the outcome is, I know that I will be fine. Not sure if I can go with the positive part, at least not yet. If I lose my wife, that is not a positive, I for one am still deeply in love with her and still want her to be a part of my life. Can't help the way I think at the present moment.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
[quote=FaithLOVEHope]I know what you mean it does not matter how much we try it looks like we are not noticed... I can't believe that we aren't though..they just can't say anything.
Originally Posted By: JR2007
789, it may have been that your W just wanted to see if you'd GO on the weekend, or go to work. You did the right thing. Yeah, you want your W to give you credit, give you confirmation, give you love for your acts, but she's not ready for that OR is going to run a few more tests before she's ready to let her guard down to you. Who knows?!?!?! You just have to be there for her and your son when the opportunities present themselves and learn patience (yes, join me will you? ). Yep, it sucks. it's not fun, "why can't she just COME BACK NOW?!?!?!?" LOL, I know the feeling, believe me, I know the feeling. It'll all be good in the end, and if you play your cards right, you'll look back at this time and the refiner's fire that created the fantastic marriage you have at that time.
Well I did go, that part I do not regret. Yes I want my wife to give me credit, hell I would take any credit she would give me. I know she won't they are not suppose to or whatever. But not one comment on time being dry, not one about wieght loss, not one about the amount of time I have been spending with son, not one thank you for all the money I have shelled out so she could think. Test are fine if that is what she wants or needs to do, but I want to look up at the scoreboard just once and see that I am not hitless after 9 innings. Patience is not one of my virtues, I am being very patient whenever I am around her I think, but in my own head, not a bit.
Thinking I am gonna get shot down for all that ^^^^^
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
). Yep, it sucks. it's not fun, "why can't she just COME BACK NOW?!?!?!?" LOL, I know the feeling, believe me, I know the feeling. It'll all be good in the end, and if you play your cards right, you'll look back at this time and the refiner's fire that created the fantastic marriage you have at that time.