She doesn't see it that way Hopefully she will someday. If not, well at least I bettered myself.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Yes, my H is skeptical and thinks that I am being manipulative. Like it is a trick or a trap to get him back and then wham, things will go back to how they were before.
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
That's exactly what my W thinks. Thinks that I'm only changing to get my way, and once I get my way that I'll snap back to who she thinks I am. She doesn't understand how much I really get it now. I'm not done either. Hopefully time will be the proof in the pudding.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
I think all of our spouse's think it is a game, or what we are trying to accomplish is nothing more than a trick. I cannot speak for everyone, but stopping drinking is not a trick or gimmick to get her back.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
I hope so. Anyone can change a behavior, change a look or style, but changing from drinking half your life to going cold turkey and starting prior to seperation, that is a change you cannot fake.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Yes, my H is skeptical and thinks that I am being manipulative. Like it is a trick or a trap to get him back and then wham, things will go back to how they were before.
I think all of our WAS's think that DBing is a trick to get them back! But what they don't understand all the hard work that we all went through to get to this point in our lives. And I think I can speak for all of you guys, the changes will stick and are very real!
My W have told me that all of the changes that I made was a trick to get her back and that I talk a good game?!
Me: 37 WAW: 31 M: 6 Years No Kids BOMB: 9/4/06 D: 9/16/07 my sitch
I think all of our spouse's think it is a game, or what we are trying to accomplish is nothing more than a trick. I cannot speak for everyone, but stopping drinking is not a trick or gimmick to get her back.
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Good job and keep it up! You can't fake anything like that.
Me: 37 WAW: 31 M: 6 Years No Kids BOMB: 9/4/06 D: 9/16/07 my sitch
Yes, my H is skeptical and thinks that I am being manipulative. Like it is a trick or a trap to get him back and then wham, things will go back to how they were before.
I think all of our WAS's think that DBing is a trick to get them back! But what they don't understand all the hard work that we all went through to get to this point in our lives. And I think I can speak for all of you guys, the changes will stick and are very real!
My W have told me that all of the changes that I made was a trick to get her back and that I talk a good game?!
Ouch! My H told our tharapist that he was sick of me being in my" Save the Marriage" mode. I told him that at least I can look back and know that I tried to save our family while he just walked away without even trying. He said, "Why should I try when I already know I don't love you." He acts like by saying that, that he is free to be a jerk. I can act like a sleaze because I don't love you! I can stop being a dad because I don't love you anymore. Blah, blah, dork.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Hopefully she will someday. If not, well at least I bettered myself.