Yup. And it's hard not to agree with the children. Even if you do. I just have to say things like "well hun..your mom must have her reasons."
It's hard to stay neutral especially when yourself is the victim of the lie. But somehow I manage.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
You have too, especially when kids are involved. That and any bad stuff I have to say about wife is all about us and now, overall she is a great person so I do not have to lie/cover anything she does.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
What is funny "not" is, I bet everything that comes out of his mouth to her, she believes came from me.
Yeah, I get in trouble when he says things to her, but she ignores the things he says to me, or claims she didn't say them.
When S4 was telling me W was saying she misses me and wants me home, I didn't put much stock in it. But I brought it up to my W and she claimed she never said it. I said, well S4 feels it and sees it then. And she said, "How couldn't he, I'm upset all the time!" GOTCHA! Quit being upset and come work on your marriage with your H!
Anyway, no update, over a week since our meeting and not a peep out of the W, not even anything from the pastor, so they must not have spoken yet. Maybe tonight while I have S4, that's what I recommended to him when we last talked - Sundays and the days I have S4 - meet with wife, help her stay positive about giving us another chance. I guess we'll find out tonight...
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Well since this place is dead today, I thought I'd get my thread back on the front page
Nothing going on, feeling like this could go on for a while. No paperwork, no communication, nothing from the Pastor.
Had a great time with S4 last night as usual. One weird thing, when I dropped him off MIL, was there and she was standing there like I was supposed to tell her something. I waited to see if SHE had something to say, but she didn't open her mouth, so I smiled, said, "See ya" and walked away. She said, "See ya" with that weird kind of drawn out tone of voice like she was expecting something to happen...I have no idea what???
Anyway, I guess no news is good news - she's obviously not in such a big hurry to sign papers like she claims
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
No, good news will be when I come on here to report that we had a clandestine rendevous up the canyon by our house and made out like High Schoolers in the back of the Durango for several hours. THAT will be good news
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
JR, your dream got me teary eyed. Not only does this process hurt our own kids but also our parents and in laws. I know our whole family is scratching their heads in puzzlement but they are no help. In fact they can make things worse!
I feel very sorry for your son. He is very young and I am sure he is confused.
My D5 acts brave but I think my attitude is leaving an unexpected impression on her. Since my H started leaving at night I have been seeing more of my friends, studying and working out. She sees that I am always in a good mood when my H comes home after work the next day. She thinks we have to pretend to be happy for Daddy. Is that twisted? She cries about it at night but smiles for him in the day???
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
I'm glad you liked the dream, did I post on here about the one where W actually - literally pulled her head out of her ass?
She wasn't nude, but her head popped right out of the backside of her jeans. It was funny. Then the rest of the dream we were living in my parents' house and we were OK with it????? Yikes.
I did have the nude dream of her too the other day, but that one is for my mind only.
Anyway, no news. Off to a sporting event: went Mtn Biking this morning: helped B33 move some office furniture; took a long nap - I am in GREAT SHAPE!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
