cat03, I rareley cry like I did that day. I can' remember the last time I had a breakdown,but yes I couldn't help it on this day. After H was "leading" me on all week while Ow was out of town (I set my self up for it too) & only to be smacked down again. My freind was inside the house & so were the girls. I was left in the garage while H kept going in & out picking up things & i was trying to hold it together.
Doing much better now. My H is out of the country and has made quite a few contacts (him iniating all) via IM or phone w/ me!!
Can someone agree w/ me on this one? My H OW showed my girls6,7 &10yrs a picture of her and him hugging while on his supposedly "business trip" away on the islands!! I know she only knew it would get back to me so I would find out,but c'mon!!! Why put my girls thru this???
How immature and ruthless! She is definitely out for herself, but take it from me, don't complain to your H. Either he won't believe it or he will take her side.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
YOYO is right...The OW are great manipulaters. He will not believe you. Mine didn't till he had to experience it his self when she thru my stuff out and also his stuff. So it ment something then because it was his. She is immature.
Be strong and start detaching. GAL for you and the girls. It is going to be rough but I know you can do it. Really support your girls...Try and be there anchor and strong for them because they will be for you.
Question to all- should I get this non pursuing BDAY card for my H? I really don't feel like getting not even acrad BUT this one you guys have got to agree w/ me is funny. It is a "talking card" from the movie "the Office" & in front it reads form the desk of Michael Scott: open it and he is reading from a line "presents are the best way to show someone how much you care it is like this tangible thing that you can point to & say hey man I love you this many dollars worth".Inside the card it reads I like you at least a card's worth. he he what ya think???
I took a test to see how much of a narcissist your spouse really is & out of 25 questions H got 23 right on the mark! God I hope this realy isn't the real him. Though it sure sounded liek it & at the end w/ the score point it said if he has anger, infedelity & abuse to RUN!!! All this w/out any empathy is not good. Well, he has changed in that case he has learned? empathy as of lately. So I dont know there is s til hope and anything is possible w/ the sweet Lord.
Oh probably. It really is all about him. Even when he says he is thinking about things that happened with us. It is all him. His life, his career, his marriage.
How many of you have been approached sexually by your cheating husbands and you have turned him down time after time? Sometimes I am conflicted as to whether I am doing right by not giving in? Yet I want his respect and most of all I want to respect myself at the end too!! This last time I told him he does not need me for sex anymore thats why he has her.....
This didn't actually happen to me, during our D sitch, H was having an EA, but I didn't know it until later, but I would completely agree that you are doing the RIGHT THING. Do not allow him to cake eat!! My personal opinion is that, if you "gave in to him" and started having sex w/ him again, he may decide he doesn't have any reason to change his behavior.
Hang in there and keep your self respect intact. He needs to want you in every way, shape and form and be ready to re-commit to you and your M before he starts getting any favors. But, like I said, that's just my opinion. A lot of times, things are easier said than done, but I definitely would not have sex w/ him if he's still having a full blown affair.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
