I wanted to say that my X and I had little problems before the speech. I had no idea of the OM and the thought of an affair was too much for me to wrap my mind around. In fact, the OM came to our house to change before baseball practice. He even invited me and my son to go bowhunting the previous summer.
My Laywer said he was a snake and had heard of his behaior from others. The OM had been married twice before. He dumpled my X, married a new girl more his age. My X was 40. I heard awhile back that the OM is divorced again (3 times).
This was from a women who always went to church and seemed disguisted with any affair she heard of or even watched on TV. Needless to say, it was a shock. I did notice that she quit going to chuch about the time she met the OM. I chalk it up to guilt.
The fog is real and she may attempt to destroy you once you pull the plug financially. It all depends on her personality type. So please be carefull.
Maybe she will come around before any of that happens.
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
I love that quote. But "Hab?" Is that Hebrews? (Heb?) Or is it some other chapter I am racking my brain to think of, and am on the verge of having to hunt down my bible to find...
Well, it needs to be said again Choco. Your W has lost her marbles. This makes no sense, This guy is a total loser. She will realize it soon enough. Sucks though. LFL
I am so sorry to hear this, it really seemed like you were getting somewhere with her. Just goes to show she really is stubborn. Stubborness is a trait I have suffered with myself in the past it makes you want to do ANYTHING to prove the other person isn't right. No matter what krap you bring on yourself in the process. So I would be careful of being too outright oppositional with her. My dad is a stubborn old bugger too, and the only way with him is to come alongside - so to speak - and gently nudge him round in the direction you want him to go.
Maybe it's too late for all that.
Keep praying Choc. Pray that she gets the very best she deserves in life. Something tells me the fog is stopping her from seeing what that is.
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
I'm so sorry, Choc. I had hopes that your W was going to at least behave like a woman with integrity even if things didn't work out for your marriage. Makes me embarrassed to be a female. Well, all I can say is that she is one non-spring chicken who is soon going to stew in her own juices and the resulting dish won't be tasty.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver