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WAW,

You are doing fine buddy. Just keep detaching, don't worry about what you W may or may not be doing, put OM out of your thoughts and look after yourself.

It does get easier, and you will notice the changes in your R the more you back off and GAL. Once your W has her freedom, and no pressure from you, she will be able to think a lot clearer about what she is doing, and may even have time to regret.

I have noticed changes in my W, but I am not going to read too much into any baby steps. I will continue to detach and do my own thing with DD and my family and friends, and she is on her own in regards to me always being there.

One more sleep to go before the game tomorrow, I am soooooooo excited.

Hey Pacheco,

Welcome buddy. I hope things are going as well as can be for you. I have learnt a whole lot from this board, and I enjoy coming her as much as I can.

It really is a help reading other people's sitches, what works and what doesn't work. It is as if we are all playing the same part in a scripted movie, but the difference is that they are our own version of that movie.

Andy,

How's it going today? PMA in good working order? Mine sort of sucks right now, but I'll muddle through I suppose.

WAW - looks like I'm following you around tonight buddy. I'm not caught up, did you wife file yet?? If not, there's no way you can be D'd by Jan 1, '08. Six months in CA, and after you are served, you have 30 days to file a response. I'm not exactly sure if the six months starts after your response. So I guess you can't rely on me for this!!! I'll find out for sure soon, my wife says she filed on Friday, but I haven't been served yet, but I wouldn't be surprised if it happened tomorrow.

Hope all is well everyone...
DNQ

Hey DNQ,

Musical threads, I just posted on yours as you did on mine. Jedi mind tricks.

Sorry to hear that your PMA has taken a pounding.

Buddy, as hard as it may be, you really have to just let her go. It will be so much easier for you and your PMA.

I know how hard it is, but you just have to.

Hey andyv

Dry up yet? spent most of the day on the beach. Let my son drive first time in his life. I MADE A HAPPY MEMORY. That is something he and I will always remember. Hope things are going beter with your sitch. Since I am not getting up to go to work our time zones are affecting our talks.

Husband

DNQ,

I suppose you are correct about the 6 months! I'm still in the same house and she thinks she can kick me out once she's filed. I really need to stay w/ my kids, I'm all they have since she's been absent emotionally.

I asked her this morning about it and she did her usual ignoring act. I have felt a great weight lifted knowing it may only take 6 months. Either way, she either comes to her senses and comes crawling back to me or I'm a free man w/ no chains and out of my current hellhole. I am in much better spirits knowing this will all be over soon one way or another.

She currently wants to try the filing herself to save money so I'm grateful for that. It looks like your wife has really put you on a roller coaster these past 6 months. I really admire your perserverance. How it the going dark coming along?

Hi Husband,

Good to hear that you guys are having a great time.

Yes, it has stopped raining. Tonight is the big game, so fingers crossed.

Also, my W brought up the Real Estate Agent meeting (which took place 6 days ago), she said she was not happy with the estimate, so she told them to hold off for now.

She also asked me whether her best friend could sleep over for two weeks (due to renovations), I said yes, no probs.

Things have certainly calmed down over the last 2 weeks due to me not really giving a damn what W does, or who she is with. This has helped me heaps in regards to my own PMA and being able to enjoy myself without her, or thoughts of her.

Hey WAW,

You have heaps of time, don't worry.

Also, it will take ages for your wife to do the D paperwork herself. Also it may take a while to sell the house.

I posted earlier about my sitch, but it has calmed down a lot. W is more interested in my comings and goings recently since going "lovingly" dark.

I am off to the big game tonight, then have a party to go to on Sat night (will be full of glamours........) So it is nice to be able to do the things my W wouldn't let me do when we were M.

She has called me controlling and jealous, but if you saw her during our marriage, if a female even looked at me when we were our, she wanted to knock her block off.

Also, enjoy your freedom while it lasts. If your W does come back, it will change and that freedom will be gone (not to say I don't prefer M to being single, but whilst I am single I will enjoy myself).

Anyway, my advice to you is just don't snoop, don't initiate any talk about what she is doing or who she is with, don't disclose anything that you do (some of it will get back to her anyway), treat her friends well (keep them thinking what the hell is she leaving this dreamboat for) and look after yourself and your family and friends.

Most import one is to look after yourself.

Well its 7am and I am off for a 4 hour drive to Canberra.

7 a.m. - so that puts you 17 hours ahead of CA time?

WAW,

If you could, send me an email so I can chat a bit offline. Address is in my sig. below.