He just called me about the D. Wanted to start talking about the D and what I wanted, when we're going to court, am I getting a L, etc. and I just said "I can't really talk about this right now."
He's still picking D up but he wants me to make a list of what I want out of this thing.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
Ignore what? I ended the call after 10 seconds. He started talking about it, what I want, etc. I started to feel myself getting angry because he keeps asking me if I'm getting a L and I asked him if I need one. Then I just told him I couldn't talk about it right now and I'd talk to him later - and verified he was getting D tonight.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
I would not do a damn thing that he asks. Just my opinion though.
This is defintely the part where you drag your feet a little bit.
Just think of how busy you are right now and you really do not have the time to spend making a list of requests.
Exactly! I don't. I was thinking this morning on my way in - that his L wants HIM to draw up the agreement and after THEY review it, I get to........so why would I write the damned thing?
Oh he wants to know when I can get him off the house now too. "how much time do I need to do that?"
This is so much @)%(@&%)(@#*_!$&%)8 fun.....
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
Now for real I'm trying to figure out what I would need - besides the child support or included in it. Like the dental payments, eye appts, etc. Let's not forget day care.
I hate this. Makes me ill. He sounds perfectly f*cking happy to be doing this too.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
He sounds perfectly f*cking happy to be doing this too.
He has to sound happy to you. Just like CB has to put on her act that she is happy living the life she is right now. It is all about justification in thier minds right now.
Now here are a few things.
1) Child Support. (Should include baby sitting coverage) 2) Alimoney 3) What is going to happen with the house. 4) Health insurance 5) Visitation which should include notification if either parent moves so that you both have contact information in case of an emergency 6) Health Care for the children 7) Seperation of all assests (not sure what you both have in both of your names) 8) Outstanding debt.
Those are just a few that I could think of off the top of my head.
By the way this sucks a$$.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Now for real I'm trying to figure out what I would need - besides the child support or included in it. Like the dental payments, eye appts, etc. Let's not forget day care.
I hate this. Makes me ill. He sounds perfectly f*cking happy to be doing this too.
Well, he's watching you, watching how you react, seeing what you ask for and turn into once it becomes reality.
I agree, let him and his L come up with a settlement offer. Then have it reviewed and go from there.
There is a lot to think about, insurance, copays, schooling, custody, the house, debts, monies, and of course child support.
Let him show you what he will do and decide for yourself if it is fair or not.
