I've followed this thread all day and have kept quiet till now. I too have wanted to solve all the problems yesterday. I figured out who I was and what I wanted and I charged ahead to get there. Well all it got me was probably 3 month more on all of this. Once I started to back off things started to improve. But they won't continue to improve if I don't back of more.
Another thing to remember is, He works in His time, not yours. As soon as you let go of this enormous need to fix things right now, He will take over completely. Then you'll start to notice changes.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
You know HnA - I've been thinking about your thread for a good majority of the evening (thank you for taking my mind off of my sitch for a few )
One thing I've noticed is it seems your quick to blame your W or God for your failing M. You say you've cracked your bible but if you do, you'll see that God's there.......He's everywhere but He's hard to hear when we're separated from him (sinning).....
Someone wise once told me you have to have faith, even when your life looks like it's in the crapper (I'm paraphrasing here ) but it's true. You can't just have faith when things are going your way.
This is the time to BUILD your faith.....through the trials you're enduring.
Believe me, you're not the first person here unfortunately.
You need to not only have faith in God, but yourself and your W.
You would not be here had you done everything perfectly and you know it. Your W is not 100% to blame.
We need love - we need to feel loved. Have you checked out The Five Love Languages? Do that and see if you can figure out what your W's LL is.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
IVE TRIED HIM. HE DOSENT SEEM TO WANT TO HELP OR GUIDE ME AT ALL.
IF YOU ONLY KNEW!!
Patience man, give it some time. Open you heart, get the blackness out of there and let him start putting some answers in there. Goodness. He's not a genie granting 3 wishes. There's something you gotta learn, and he's trying to teach you what it is. Give it some time...
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
IVE TRIED HIM. HE DOSENT SEEM TO WANT TO HELP OR GUIDE ME AT ALL.
IF YOU ONLY KNEW!!
Patience man, give it some time. Open you heart, get the blackness out of there and let him start putting some answers in there. Goodness. He's not a genie granting 3 wishes. There's something you gotta learn, and he's trying to teach you what it is. Give it some time...
On top of that are you actually "listening" to what God is saying? Are you hearing Him in all the ways He's "talking to you"? Sometimes we have to look around a bit harder to find His responses.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
i feel that when i truely open my heart to him he lets her in my mind and soul all over and then i really get hurt all over again and im so very scared. I SAID IT.... IM SCARED IM SO VERY SCARED!!!!!! FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE IM SCARED.!!!!!!
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