Why is YOUR family mad at you for trying to save your family? That makes about as much sense as my W's family being OK with her breaking up our family!
If you don't have your family to support you, what the hell??? Have you talked to them about it? What could possibly be their excuse for not supporting you???
You need to come play golf
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
It was hard for me to read your post tonight because my sister is putting my brother in law through something similar.
Work on having NO EXPECTATIONS.
Stop asking for hugs or anything else.
The quicker you back off from appearing needy, the quicker you can start detaching.
This is no cakewalk.
But it CAN be done.
AmyC
what is up with your sister??? She has asked me not to talk about it here so I have to respect that. But think about it: would I have written anything on this board that didn't pertain in one way or other to the subject matter?
And NM, you WILL do it. Just don't give up on the work.
OK, gotcha. Well, I'll include her in my prayers like I do for everyone on this board.
This is getting really hard, and I'm just in my 3rd month. I'm really having to stand on my own two feet right now to prove my faith and trust in God. So, all the prayers that go out for everyone else help me to not wallow in my own predicament. As I know many of you have had it way worse than me. I hope it helps!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Why is YOUR family mad at you for trying to save your family? That makes about as much sense as my W's family being OK with her breaking up our family!
If you don't have your family to support you, what the hell??? Have you talked to them about it? What could possibly be their excuse for not supporting you???
You need to come play golf
To answer your question JR. They said they refuse to support the unhealthy relationship any further. They don't respect my boundries or my choices. Never have. So since I'm paying for riding lessons for her and my D, they have said I an enabling and they refuse to be part of it. I rent from my aunt and she evicted me because she refuses to watch me "go down the rabbit hole again."
Today sucks.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Oh and to make things worse. I found out that OM's bday is actually today too. Same as mine. She told me via instant msg today "For the kids sake, we told them it was tomorrow."
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
To answer your question JR. They said they refuse to support the unhealthy relationship any further. They don't respect my boundries or my choices. Never have. So since I'm paying for riding lessons for her and my D, they have said I an enabling and they refuse to be part of it. I rent from my aunt and she evicted me because she refuses to watch me "go down the rabbit hole again."
Today sucks.
Believe me that I don't talk like this, but it's deserved here:
WTF????
Well, I don't know what you can do about that, but you've got us here and we're here for you. We understand why you're doing what you're doing, and you have the support you need here.
Keep the PMA going, you take care of you! And Happy Birthday!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Thanks. Going to need all the prayers I can get to survive today.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
