I feel like a little bit of a doormat. Getting a job for somebody who is potentially the OM.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
I'm ready, been looking fwd to it since last week!
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
It's the OCD in me. Can't help it. Must analyze..it's what I do!
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Ah but that's not true. I have analyzed before and discovered my worst fears. How do I just accept her friendship with this guy? I mean she'll go out with him on work nights, won't return that kind of favor to me. I stopped talking about it with her because she would get defensive and hostile. So I stuck to lighter subjects when we're together just to make the time as positive as possible. This is why I feel like a doormat.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Well, I guess the point is, you can analyze all you like but it will not change her behaviors, feelings, actions, etc. Nothing will change her but her. Now you can become a lot more attractive to her. She's interested in what you can offer in the way of emotional support and sensitivity. She also wants a little excitement. Women get bored just like men. Be a little adventuresome, even if she's not with you, make her wonder what you're doing! Ger her interested in you again. You constantly worrying or analyzing or talking to her about the OM won't do a thing for her. You have to exude confidence and stability while exhibiting a bit of excitement too.
Think positive, and you'll be fine. Have you gone to a DB coach? Call and see if you can get Jodi, she's really good, you'll be amazed.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
