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If she freaks, then she freaks. You at least approached it calmly an rationally on your end. Besides, Lawless essentially has her cornered. This way she gets to save some dignity.

IMP,

This could very well be true. You've proven to be a good leader thus far! Do you think court is the answer?

I say think it over for a bit. Whenever I make a decision in this sitch, I sit on it for 24 hours. 90% of the time I alter it to some degre..

Your point made loud and clear, IMP.

bambam

Definitely approach it calmly. And, I would also suggest apologizing for telling her to stick it up her @$$. But why would you use words that would fuel a fire. And asking her to sit down and discuss it calmly will fuel the fire. Seems to me lawless approached her the calmest possible way the first time. Or at least until he told her to stick it.

I agree. I write "big" emails ahead of time and send them in a day or two. I almost always change them before sending. My final version usually have a lot less emotion in them.

Words of wisdom from my father "cooler heads always prevail"

My father's wisdom, "Don't have a pissing match w/a skunk"...I miss him!

Is that what a calm discussion would end up being?

Definately think about it before making any decision.

bambam, I like your fathers wisdom

I do think things over, usually a few days at least. Good advice from all, if I say anymore about it I know I'll get major spew.

I think I'll let her stew on it until Monday and see what kinda moves she's gonna make. If I don't see some sort of movement then hi ho hi ho it's off to court we go.

Funny thing is I even said for her to shove it nicely


And to think she was crying on the phone to me a few days ago, this girl is really spinning now.

Lawless. She's scared. I think you said she was already short on money.

LOL...nicely...sometimes saying it nicely pisses them off more.

But I like your approach, the ball is in her court.

Ima, it's true she is short on cash thats why I proposed a payment plan, she may be scared and if she is that would account for the spew, hmmmm got me thinking now, I always figured that when she ran out of cash the OM would find a greener pasture, could be that's happening sooner rather than later.

IMP, I tend to play a little rougher than your average DBer, in my mind I am just another creditor whom she owes money. We all know the money she owes will benifit the kids wether it be new shoes or Disneyland. This kinda crap is a prime example of how far off the charts the MLCer is.