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The kid is a stud, if I do say so myself.

He needs to do some serious work on his mom, but of course I can't encourage that.

Amy, get in here and tell me about the WAW!


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I read it already, I want to to know the inner workings. I want to see if my w has something more going on, because she's not playing by the rules right now... \:\)


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Yeah, I know. For once, I'd like mine to fit the definition perfectly.

Since I can't talk to her or even see her, I'm just curious if Amy has any insights. I'm curious to know if she thinks I can push the envelope a little and get my W to come out of her shell at all. I have lots of faith, but I also know I need to be working to show my faith. So, if there are any ideas, I thought maybe she'd know, since she kind of went through the same thing, only worse...


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Nothing in the mail again today.


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Originally Posted By: JR2007
Nothing in the mail again today.



Are you waiting for what I think you are waiting for in the mail.


M 41
W 33
S8
S17
Bomb 3/11/07
S 3/28/07
New beginning? 8/31/07




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Lawyer papers

I haven't heard a peep from her in almost 2 weeks now, and I'm expecting to get the next step from her lawyer. It's not the end of the world, I was just hoping and praying that she'd call me, or go through our pastor again, or my counselor, or something.

That's why I've been trying to get Amy in here to see if I can get some female perspective on this.

Funny thing is I'm actually not dwelling on this much, if at all, except when I have to go get the mail each day.


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That is what I thought.
You are right not to dwell on it, but it is almost like you are still expecting the worst from her. What I know from my first D is that paperwork being served and all that is fast, everything else about D is slow. Maybe she has never been been back to lawyer. Maybe she is thinking about M and you daily.

Come on, this is the new me, we are going to be happy in here, and believe it is all going to work out for families and ourselves. I am losing my negativity in every aspect of my life and thoughts.


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Hey JR, not for nothing but Amy's not the only female around here.....


M- 48
XW- mentally 17
KIDS- 3- S19, D23, D28
Married- 17 years
Divorce final- 10/16/09

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If you're checking the mail daily and acting sad when you don't get D papers - I'm confused.

I'd take that as a good sign.


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Well hello guys!!!

789 - They're not the D papers, I already have those now almost 2 months (the 12th makes 2 months). I'm thinking the next step is going to be from her lawyer. I am definitely focusing on the positive - I feel so much better about myself than even just a week ago ( go back and see ;\) ) We're cool. You and I, and the other H's in here, we'll pull each other through.

Ian, I know there are other women, but how many of them were WAW's? BELIEVE me, I appreciate the female perspective from whomever wants to participate in my situation, I just wanted to see if there were any WAW insights Amy could provide. Any woman is welcome to give me their $.02 whenever they'd like in here

UA, I'm not unhappy about not getting papers, that was a question face. I'm just surprised nothing has happened in 2 weeks since our meeting. And again, I only really think about it when I have to go home and get the mail. ;\)

Since you're an enlightened woman, what's your take on this? We had a solid conversation 2 weeks ago, I saw in her eyes that the connection was still there, she was interested in me, but has yet to do anything about it again...ideas? And believe me, I'm cool about doing my own thing and not wallowing. Just curious more than anything at this point. \:\)


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