I agree with this -- instead of asking for signs (which can be difficult to interpret and sometimes we become obsessive over them) pray instead consistently for guidance, and that He strengthen your trust and your faith.
I was thinking of Abraham again last night. Walking up that mountain with Isaac, he knew part of the picture but not all of it -- but he obviously trusted God to take care of the details he didn't understand.
7 Isaac spoke to Abraham his father and said, "My father!" And he said, "Here I am, my son." And he said, "Behold, the fire and the wood, but where is the lamb for the burnt offering?"
8 Abraham said, "God will provide for Himself the lamb for the burnt offering, my son." So the two of them walked on together.
I don't get the mentality that he should "get away" with his actions?
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Ok my dear, you need to change your perspective on this just a little.
Ask yourself what is really hurting you, is it the fact that your H told your daughter not to say the woman he had an EA with was with him on the weekend?
Or the fact that she was there....
Why would your H say this to your D? So that you wouldn't be hurt by it? so you wouldn't get angry at him?
Trust me, I do know what you are feeling here. I am right smack in the middle of it too, so is my D. My H is telling her about his OW, how wonderful she is...
Unfortunatley, he fails to tell her that if they are going to be together, my H will have to move and give up seeing her on a regular basis.
That mentality is exactly where your H is right now...why should you get away with your actions and still have him?
See where the path leads to?
Do I agree with the lying? No, but you realize you will also put your D in a bad spot with your H. Are you ready to go down that path?
If you text him what you want to say, can you leave it at that if he does not respond? Will you expect a response? What if he doesn't, will that make you more angry?
Wait 24 hours, let yourself cool down. If you still need to feel like you need to say something, you will be in a better mindset to do it. Right now you are so angry and hurt, it will not be productive.
I was there last night. I was so hurt and upset, that I said some things to my H, and it pretty much started an argument. He was pretty abusive with his words..yet at the same time he was right.
Honey, first of all I am sorry you are getting your knickers in a twist about things you have no control over.
I know exactly how you feel and the anxiety you are feeling, the gag reflex, and the weight loss, it all sucks. I started taking Klonopin for it and it helped so much!!
I am going to sound like a hypocrite because I can't take my own advice...BUT do NOT let the monsters in your head come out to play.
The things we make up in our head are so much worse then the reality of the situation.
Be still, take a seat in the Refiners Fire and let yourself rest.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Honestly I could care less about her right now. Really. He knows I have issues or had issues with their "friendship" and he questioned it himself.
My issue is NOT with her presence. My issue is that he's asking our seven year old D to LIE for him............because if I knew she was there, I wouldn't let him see her.
My issue is him putting our D into THAT kind of a situation - making her feel like she has to LIE to me.
This won't be done via text. It will be done in person, face to face. And D won't be around.
See - this is just icing on the cake.
D told my mom that she was worried OM (named him by name BTW) would be at the Relay and she didn't want a fight. Then he tells me in front of her about how he doesn't have my money but when we go to court, they should automatically deduct it.
He's putting her into the middle of this BS too much and I'm tired of it. This is between him and I - details like OM, etc. don't need to be discussed in front of her.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
Honey, first of all I am sorry you are getting your knickers in a twist about things you have no control over.
I know exactly how you feel and the anxiety you are feeling, the gag reflex, and the weight loss, it all sucks. I started taking Klonopin for it and it helped so much!!
I am going to sound like a hypocrite because I can't take my own advice...BUT do NOT let the monsters in your head come out to play.
The things we make up in our head are so much worse then the reality of the situation.
Be still, take a seat in the Refiners Fire and let yourself rest.
Great post.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
