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Things might seems all sunshine and roses on his side of the fence, but you never know. their marriage could be a ticking time bomb, who knows, and more importantly, who cares.

you're human, you'll have feelings like this.

just try not to waste energy on em.

make any sense?

it does. It was just bothering me and I needed to get it out. Blech - makes me angry

How come some people have more of a "pennance" than others?

So I just want to say thanks to H for some things...

Thank you for helping me to realize that I AM a good person and I DO deserve to be treated good.

Thank you for the stress you've given me - I'm now wearing a SMALL t-shirt! WOW.

Thank you for 13 years...some highs, some lows.

Thank you most of all for our beautiful D.

Unfortunately I don't think right and fair get to vote. I think trying to compare how different people react to similar situations can have some usefullness, but at the same time, everyone is different, and every situation is different. We will never know all of the back story in someone else's situation. om and his wife 'appear' fine, but what's really there? You don't know. And in any case, despite everything, it isn't relevant to you. (I know you know that, but sometimes a reminder is ok, I hope.)

As far as you go, it's obvious that you are sorry. But, have you forgiven yourself? I think until you really forgive yourself you'll find that it is harder for someone else to forgive you. Could you be trying too hard to show that you are sorry?

So, get up from behind that wall!

Jeff

after a lot of thinking and consulting with my C, forgiving ourselves isn't really an option - it's accepting the forgiveness God gives us....which allows us to let go of the shame, etc. I'm working on it.

KS,

you need a Harley. those are hands down, the best therapy around.

well H has one.

so you know what I mean.

That might be a better way of putting it. The point being that until you can let go of it, I don't think he will be able to.

Jeff

Tiny update.......

After a few texts back and forth, no decision was made so I took D with me to the field and assumed he was planning on meeting me there. He called and asked me to bring her out so "he didn't have to see ANYONE".......

So I bring her out, and he hands me a check...for $25 to sponsor me in the Relay. And then somewhat snippity or flippant might be a better word - he says I still owe you but I have to pay rent. Maybe when we go to court, it'll be better because they'll just take it out for you.....


BTW - RIGHT in front of D.

And that my friends, is the update.

Oh - D wanted to go to her cousin's dance recital yesterday and my parents said they'd take her but she had to be at their house at 1. Well I came home from the Relay and crashed for six hours. He called my cell twice, the house once and sent a text. D missed the recital....