Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE Can you give me some advice please?

You aren't being secretive -- it's counseling!! You have GOT to speak candidly w/ her and get someone else's opinions/advice. You can talk to her about his issues w/o her having to tell you what he said. I'm glad he didn't come home angry. Progress . . .

Ok, Zu, don't think you'll mind if I hijack for a moment, have a question for NOP and everybody else, and know he's reading your thread:

Am I doing the right thing in just keeping quiet about OW/work girl? My mouth about barfed out this a.m. "are you still talking to her" but I'll tell you my thinking right now: I am feeling SO good about things and he is sounding more and more supportive & loving every day. I figure if he is talking to her, it will fizzle out the more "into" me and our M he gets. He told me this a.m. how much he misses us and that did include me -- not just the boys -- I could tell.

I figure when he gets back for good in a year, if I feel the need to clear up this subject w/ him and she's still here at this base, I can do it then. I'm hopeful that it won't even be an issue by then and if it still is bothering me I will feel like our M is strong enough to have that sort of discussion.