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I agree JRyan, I think all of us go off the deep end at least in the begining, the one good thing for me is I bought DB'ing and Divorce Remedy within 48 hours of her telling me. That is probably the best thing I did to stop so quickly. Now for her being very commuticative, not sure on that one, about our son and the bills she is, about us, I think I still need to go with her last comment on that and that was divorce, she has actually not said anything to say trying or maybe, but dinners, changing her mind on some of the bills without a peep from me is a good start. As for the changes, they all were for her in the very beginning, but switched damn quick to be for me once I entered rehab and that will not change.

Good for you! Sounds like you have your head on straight. I wish I had known about DBing and Divorce Remedy about 5 months ago, I wouldn't be here now. Funny I just happened across this place and now it's taking all my money...er...I mean helping me save my marriage

Actually it's great chatting with other people with similar issues. I especially like to see people succeeding (obviously) as it gives me hope.

Well here's hoping you're one of the thousands of couples that DBing has helped save. Good Luck!!!

Well do not give up hope yourself, it's tough for all involved.
I just saw your thread so I guess it is time to go read it

Good Luck

Oh today is going to suck, we sold the house and today is the day I get to help her move out to her own apartment. Yeah, I am still nice and going to help her move. So I get to spend the whole day with her and her parents and appear to be happy like nothing is going on...

Well helping her move out to her new apartment did suck, but probably just because it made it seem more permanant. Overall everyone including myself was in good spirits. I did make one stupid mistake about us though, but her knee-jerk reaction was great. She had to stop by the store and after it was all rang up she asked me to pay for it, which I did. Then after we got in the car I jokingly said that I was moving in with at her apartment on June 1st because I couldn't afford paying for all her stuff.
Her quick response was "it is to soon for that", then she did not say a word the rest of the ride back. I know I shouldn't say things like that, but her response does make me wonder if she is at least rethinking divorce.

My thought of the day:
I am thinking they should make everyone go thru DB'ing before being allowed to get a divorce.

Well off to help her finish moving, will have to once again behave myself. But damn she looks good with this hot weather we are having. Yeah I know I talk to myself alot

Well helping her move out could not have gone any better. I could not have scripted any better if I had tried. She came out and on her own stated that she is not sure if she wants a divorce, not sure if she wants to stay married either though. Then pretty much asked me to do everything that the DB says even though she has never heard or read it. It was like music to my ears. I realize that does not mean I will get my wife back, but it also gives me the hope that I have been wanting for the last two months.

Well wife is completely moved out, I am completely moved out. It finally hit me last nite that I really have no control on what the future holds and that sucks at the moment. It is an wierd feeling now that it has gone this far and even though I have hope, it is tough sitting around without the family around. Guess it is time to go take a jog and get my mind off of it.

So what is she missing in her life that keeps her so confused? I know I didn't provide the financially safe environment that my wife longed for. That with a lot of recent fighting and other crap, made it unbearable for her.

Is your wife upset about finances? Physical relationship? Honesty? Time spent with her? Gifts? See if yu can figure that out through being her best friend and do those things. It's a struggle. I tried everthing (I think) and it was definitely not buying her expensive gifts I think her thing was also just being understood and really respected as a human being, not just "MY WIFE." YKWIM?