65, At this point i would say yes test the waters and see what happens it sounds like she needs to talk and get it off her chest or she may be in big trouble again with the bulimia. She really should see a councelor but as i know, that is easier said than done.My H refuses to go and thinks he can handle things himself and he may be right about that who knows at this point. jak
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
She will be going out of town for the next couple of days. She is putting on a wedding shower, bachelorette party, etc. this weekend. She will be back home on Sunday. I am going to wait to "test the waters" until she gets back home. Hopefully, with these things that she has been planning for months she will be a little more relaxed and not so stressed out. Plus, I don't need her telling her friends about this conversation and them yapping in her ear all weekend long and telling her what she should do.
Stang, I think it is a good idea to wait also. Sneek over to my thread and read what CL has written he gives great advise.
My H also does not talk and i think he is either scared or trying to brush things under the rug. the advise from CL seems very worthy of my attention and i plan on using it.(everyone on this board has worthy contributions to share).
Jak
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Yes, I have a '65 Mustang coupe. It has been going through a major restoration for a long time now. It should be completed this summer. It's been a long and tiring process so I am pretty good on patience.
Yesterday after work I stopped by the house around 5:30pm to change clothes because I was meeting my dad out for a few beers. I thought my gf was leaving to go out of town that morning so I was surprised to see her at home when I arrived. Turns out she wasn't leaving until this morning.
I immediately began to change clothes the moment I got home. My gf was also getting dressed up to go out also. She seemed in a great mood and asked me with curiosity on why I was changing clothes. I simply responded, "I am going out for a little bit." Her response was a puzzled, "Oh." I never asked why she was getting all dressed up. However, she openly told me what she was doing and where she was headed.
I got back home around 10:30pm and the GF was home and still all dressed up and looking great. I asked her why she was home so early and she stated that the little get-together with her and her co-workers didn't really pan out and hardly anyone showed up.
She seemed to be in a pretty good mood and dancing around the house. I said to her, "It is still pretty early, do you want to head out to a bar." Her reply, "Sure. I feel like going out and dancing." She then asked me who I had went out with early and I just stated, "I went out with some people after work."
We both seemed to have a good time out dancing. There were times when we were sitting at a bar table and nothing was really being spoken but I caught her staring at me. Each time I caught her looking at me, I made sure to lock eyes with her until she looked away.
A few hours after being out we ran into a few of her friends. One of them was the girl that she is supposedly moving in with. This made me a bit uncomfortable so I decided to exit the situation (it was already 1am and I had to work in 7 hours). I asked my GF if she could catch a ride home (we only live 10 blocks away) and she said yes. So I left.
Depending on her mood on Sunday when she gets back into town, I plan on talking to her and letting her know that she can tell me what has been on her mind.
65Stang, Hope your weekend goes well for you,especially Sunday! Remember to stay calm cool collected and be her friend tommorrow. Have a good time today take a walk excersise and GAL.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
PS, when you talk to her don't tell her that you know there is something she wants to discuss but rather you feel there is knowing is to put words in her mouth and she might feel backed into a corner(like you are dictating to her).But im'e sure you already do know that it's just hard to keep that in mind when talking to your significant other.
You are doing great keep it up.
Jak
Last edited by jak58; 05/05/0703:31 PM.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
