Hey, thanks for dropping by Abby, Dienne, LL, and Owen.
Quoting Abby:Thanks for the pictures. Your kids are adorable. And as Floyd would say you and your wife are attractive people. Who is the guy in the picture w/you?
Thanks for the compliments. The guy in the pic with me is my dad. Do we look alike?
Quoting Owen:Hows it going today?
Pretty good, actually...thanks for asking. Nothing really new to report. I got the book "After the Affair" last night and began reading it. Like DR, it immediately hit home. You should get it Owen. None of the local bookstores had it, so I got it on Amazon.
Last night my W left soon after I got home. She needed space, so she was off. It's okay. I told her to let me know when she needed the time...so she did. Kids were kind of driving her nuts yesterday, and I think the after affects of our R talk got to her...which I anticipated.
When she got home she was in a good mood. She also called me this morning and sounded like she was in a great mood...made lots of jokes and such.
I won't see her too much tonight. I'm going to Yoga, then over to the IL's to do some music. I'm going to try and surprise her and arrange babysitting for us tomorrow night, so we can blow off some steam. I think she'll like that.
In any case, I'm feeling pretty good...the PMA is up.
It sound like those darn wound you've got are itching again. Thats a good sign that it's getting better. When you start to go down that thought path that puts you ina bad place try to break the cycle. Found out in Anger Mgt. last night that our unplesent thoughts feed on each other and it turns into this vicious defeating cycle. Try to see it comming on and then break the cycle by being upbeat in your head. It sounds weird but it works. Praying for you. Jim
I had an interesting morning. My alarm went off and I was going to get up and go work out, but my W got a bout of vertigo and sat up immediately. She's been having little episodes lately...she thinks is due to stress. So, naturally, I'm worried about her, postponed my workout and stayed at home with her in the morning to help with the kids and such.
Well, we kind of get into an R talk because of the vertigo and stress, etc. It was, once again, a good talk, but not too heavy at all...as we mostly concentrated on her vertigo/stress and how to eliminate it. Also, over the last year she's accumulated a little gray hair (she's only 32). All stress.
So, basically, she's VERY stressed and anxious and is having an extremely hard time coping. She has made the comment to me more than once that she'd never have an A again because of all the stress it causes. She's been working out like a mad woman these days...which is an effort to release some of the stress. Yet, it doesn't seem to help too much. I have to hand it to her though, because she said that she was going to make a list of all the things that stress her out, and try and figure out how to better handle each one of the situations on her list. I told her to let me know if I could help out. It's like I've said before, she seems uncomfortable in her own skin.
Interestingly, she was talking about going out to Karaoke with my sister next week (to a different bar), and I asked that if OM ever came in, or if she ever had any contact with OM, that she'd tell me...and leave. She agreed. At first she didn't seem to think that it would be in my best interest to tell me if she saw OM at the different bar, but I told her she needed to tell me. She mentioned that she wasn't too worried about him trying to pursue her in any way, shape, or form because all through their A, he's been very afraid of what I would do if I found out. She actually said, "he's a chicken sh!t!" and that "OM even said that people have been killed over stuff like this." Well, it's no wonder she made me promise I'd not go down to the bar and have a "chat" with him. This information certainly makes me feel better because since she called him and told him that I know, he's probably concerned and will not do anything to jeopardize himself.
So, I'm worried about her, but it's her thing to deal with...nothing I can do except offer to help here and there.
I surprised her with our date tonight. She keeps trying to guess what we're doing...and she might...because she's like all women--extremely perceptive. I got tickets to a mystery dinner theater where the audience participates in trying to found out "who done it." I've been wanting to do this for a couple of years now. It'll be fun.
Anyway, things continue to roll along fairly well. Nothing to complain about.
People think my Mom is my sister. 
