well, in a nutshell, been back with my wife for a year and a half, going to part ways next month, we get along great. I just demand more from a wife, like no lying, cheating, you know, silly things like that.
I figure I gave my wife and kids the first 42 years, I want to see what is out there. I'm not talking women, right now I have no interest, but I want to travel and see things. I've been stuck in Denver for my whole life. kinda sick of it.
kids are all on their own and doing good. so nothing to hold me from wandering the earth for a while.
Life is good.
ford,
I understand those "silly things" some of us guys demand. Personally, I agree with you; I would rather be single than married in a situation like you mentioned.
I also understand your desire to travel. I would like to get around to doing that someday.
As for the women part, I believe things will happen when they happen. In my case, it just happened. I did not think I would find a gal I clicked with so quickly. The tough part is slowing things down before they go too far. I just do not think it is right to have a sexual relationship outside of marriage.
Back to Denver, if you ever want to go grab a beer and discuss philosophy, life or women, send me a PM.
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
I understand what you said about the women happening. it's crazy how easy it is to meet people, I don't know how anyone could feel like they have to be alone.
thing is, I've been with someone since I was 14. I've never had time to just be by myself and see what it is like. I used to flirt with women I met, but I soon stopped that, I don't want to play with peoples feelings and some people seemed to get unusally attached by mere flirting. crazy.
I want to come and go when I please. I want to watch what I want to watch, I want to save or spend money without explanation. I want to leave dishes in the sink, laundry on the floor and the seat up.
funny, two years ago, I'd have sawed my arm off to get my wife back.
I understand what you said about the women happening. it's crazy how easy it is to meet people, I don't know how anyone could feel like they have to be alone.
thing is, I've been with someone since I was 14. I've never had time to just be by myself and see what it is like. I used to flirt with women I met, but I soon stopped that, I don't want to play with peoples feelings and some people seemed to get unusally attached by mere flirting. crazy.
I want to come and go when I please. I want to watch what I want to watch, I want to save or spend money without explanation. I want to leave dishes in the sink, laundry on the floor and the seat up.
funny, two years ago, I'd have sawed my arm off to get my wife back.
time and clarity wonderful healers.
ford,
Killing some suds sounds good!
I understand the being alone part as well. In a way, it would be nice to have a gal here. In other ways, I do enjoy many of the things you mentioned. I see this as just another phase of my life. I think I will eventually get married again; I am not 100% certain after the last fiasco.
I also understand your feelings of being willing to do anything to get your wife back. I felt that way for the first few months. I, too, have seen the light. I started to really ponder it. Would I really want to be married to a woman who just walks out on a 12 year marriage without giving counseling, SBT, me or anything else a chance? Is this a trustworthy woman? You are right - time and clarity are wonderful healers.
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
Take this for what it is worth. Yesterday, I had the strangest feeling my exW was going to leave me a message on my home voice mail. I kept trying to shake that feeling off the entire day.
Well, I got home.......... There was a message from her mentioning something I needed to get squared away with the health insurance... The really strange thing is she always used e-mail to communicate before and she actually called from her home phone number which I did not have..... She knows every phone in the house has caller ID.....
Feel free to analyze away.........
RMG
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"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
I got it squared away this morning with the health insurance; I then e-mailed her back. What do you think? A close friend of mine from this forum said exW chose to phone me because she wanted to be sure I knew she was still there.....
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
Personally, I agree with you; I would rather be single than married in a situation like you mentioned.