Are you in love with your wife or a dream of what should have or could have been. It's so hard to separate, even several years after D, what it is your heart desires. I thought I wanted my ex-W back to, but looking back now, I can't even see why I did.
So cultivate these relationships. Give them a chance. Your wife wasn't "all that and a bag of chips", no one is. Sometimes it's easier to look at your ex-spouse with the rose colored glasses off when you have someone that treats you right for comparison. You don't have to jump in to a relationship, but dating is the way you find out if there is someone else for you. Ms. Houston sounds interesting because of the intangibles.
Me
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Are you in love with your wife or a dream of what should have or could have been. It's so hard to separate, even several years after D, what it is your heart desires. I thought I wanted my ex-W back to, but looking back now, I can't even see why I did.
So cultivate these relationships. Give them a chance. Your wife wasn't "all that and a bag of chips", no one is. Sometimes it's easier to look at your ex-spouse with the rose colored glasses off when you have someone that treats you right for comparison. You don't have to jump in to a relationship, but dating is the way you find out if there is someone else for you. Ms. Houston sounds interesting because of the intangibles.
Me
Just_Me,
I think it is the dream of what could/should have been more than anything. When I married her, I INCORRECTLY thought I could trust her with all of me. I thought she would be the last woman on this planet to just get up and leave without a fight AND counseling. She was very selfish. I helped her get through school; while she was barely making enough to survive, we were blowing my money on clothes, trips to FL and of course she got a new car first. It jus pi$$es me off she had no loyalty.
Here is the joke of the century. She said she interviews horribly (which she does). Yet, she believes she could actually make more money than she does at her government job. People in the private sector with CPAs (which she does not have) are making 2/3 of what she makes and working 50-60 hours per week not a cushy 40 hours per week. She is delusional.
RMG
Last edited by RMG; 05/16/0710:23 PM.
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
Are you in love with your wife or a dream of what should have or could have been. It's so hard to separate, even several years after D, what it is your heart desires. I thought I wanted my ex-W back to, but looking back now, I can't even see why I did.
So cultivate these relationships. Give them a chance. Your wife wasn't "all that and a bag of chips", no one is. Sometimes it's easier to look at your ex-spouse with the rose colored glasses off when you have someone that treats you right for comparison. You don't have to jump in to a relationship, but dating is the way you find out if there is someone else for you. Ms. Houston sounds interesting because of the intangibles.
Me
Just_Me,
I think it is the dream of what could/should have been more than anything. When I married her, I INCORRECTLY thought I could trust her with all of me. I thought she would be the last woman on this planet to just get up and leave without a fight AND counseling. She was very selfish. I helped her get through school; while she was barely making enough to survive, we were blowing my money on clothes, trips to FL and of course she got a new car first. It jus pi$$es me off she had no loyalty.
Here is the joke of the century. She said she interviews horribly (which she does). Yet, she believes she could actually make more money than she does at her government job. People in the private sector with CPAs (which she does not have) are making 2/3 of what she makes and working 50-60 hours per week not a cushy 40 hours per week. She is delusional.
RMG
Just_Me,
Sorry about that. I was not trying to be a downer. I had to vent a bit. It was really difficult to get her to understand the concept that many salaried professionals in the private sector must work overtime. Since she has never worked a salaried job outside the government, I think she did not understand what it is like to work in a job which has more than its fair share of pressure.
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
I read your post again..... It really makes me take a look at everything in a sober light.
I had to go to the DMV today to register my new SUV. When I walked in, there was a big sign - Marriage Licenses. That just made by heart and spirit ache.
Ms. Houston and I are still moving along. She is such a very unique gal. There is enough electricity between us to power Vegas for a year! She is coming to Denver to spend ten days with me. The biggest challenge will be for her to keep her hands off me. We'll have to see what happens. It WILL be interesting.
Take Care,
RMG
Last edited by RMG; 05/25/0701:32 AM.
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
RMG, I hope everything goes well for you. Wow! Ten days to have to keep her hands off you. I pity you.
I was thinking about this first marriage. You know...I DBed in a way...I kept going forward with my life, I went out with friends, I didn't pursue much with the ILYs, etc. And we did maintain reasonable contact that was friendly and cooperative. And you know what? That didn't change the course at all. The difference with the second marriage was my second wife. It was the way she was that enabled us to get back together.
Me
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
RMG, I hope everything goes well for you. Wow! Ten days to have to keep her hands off you. I pity you.
I was thinking about this first marriage. You know...I DBed in a way...I kept going forward with my life, I went out with friends, I didn't pursue much with the ILYs, etc. And we did maintain reasonable contact that was friendly and cooperative. And you know what? That didn't change the course at all. The difference with the second marriage was my second wife. It was the way she was that enabled us to get back together.
Me
Yes - I think that it's not only what you do, but who you do it with (I mean working on M!) that matters.
No matter what I did in my M or after H left, I think his narcissistic tendencies would eventually have caused him to go for good. Or maybe not if I'd kept telling him how fab he was - but that wouldn't have been fair to myself.
Thanks for clarifying!
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so you're going to spend 10 days in Houston, or, wait, I'm confused.
it's friday, hope you're doing well
ford,
She is actually coming to Denver for 10 days...... We are going to do the "married" thing without ML.... She has use or lose time at work and a ton of comp time.... It should be fun!
RMG
Last edited by RMG; 05/25/0708:29 PM.
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
We'll have to see what happens. It WILL be interesting.