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MC,

Beautiful work.

Your getting stronger every day.

The gift was great.

--Theoden

Hows this for crazy. Last week I sent W an e-mail with an attachment of optical illusions. There are about 14 pictures and they are those deals that if you look at them long enough they change. Through the wonders of technology, I can tell if she forwards it. She sent it on as a forwarded message to the OM. That is way too weird.

MC - I need your opinion on an e-mail I just got from H. It sounds kind of like a kiss-off. Can I e-mail it to you? I don't want to post it here, ya' know?

I know my H has done this too...forwarded silly email stuff from OW to me, vice versa. Definitely 'Twilight Zone' stuff we're dealing with here.

Don't try to figure it out. Just keep up the FABULOUS work!

Yeah go ahead and send it to the address mcojh@yahoo.com I will reply from a differant one though that I use regularly, but don't want on the boards.

ok.. just sent it. Also, could you send me the links to those other web sites you were talking about. thanks

MC,

I for one would only do family things and not all these date nights if I did not want to send the wrong message. But who knows what her logic is and we cannot really guess.

Sounds like Mother's Day went great. Again watch your expectations - they get me still. Even now in piecing my 'perceived expectations' (from H pt. of view) are getting me in trouble. My H is worried about his lack of ability to reconcile (w/me)without so much effort on his part - he thinks he's so messed up he's not sure what to do. He finally made an appt with a counselor (diff from mine) for next week. This scares me but I know it's necessary. This roller coaster ride still continues for me as well...

Hang in there!!

Thats the thing HB, what are her intentions. I think the "its comfortable going out with you" is BS. I also think the "we need to be able to get along for the boys" is BS. I don't know if she is that screwed up and playing with my head or if she is that screwed up and doesn't know what she wants or if like someone said earlier, testing me.

When Mother's Day came up early last week, I told her that the boys should be with her on MDay. She initiated it as a family affair. She initiated the ideas of what to do. She brought up the zoo or a bike ride. The weather was bad, so the zoo won.

If she is just playing me, I wish I knew, and I would get away. I find it hard to believe that she is, as she appears to be pursuing me at times.

Hanging in there, smiling and wwaving.

When I asked my H later (after OW was gone)why he'd lie about seeing her - espec. when he was at the apt and I knew he was going to be seeing her - H said he did not want to hurt me any more than he already was.

I feel these WAS's do many things out of guilt and we assume it's more than that. We HOPE it's more than that.... this is the hardest thing we will have go through - but you just need to keep the faith and keep trying even when you are so damn tired of trying...

August 9th is the one year when my H gave me the letter saying he was done... We still are not fixed and I doubt we will be by August. This is a slow process. My fear is that H will move back home end of May just to realize he wants out - talk about breaking my heart for the last time - but what about our kids hearts....this is just sooooo tiring...

Hanging in there too! Not waving (to tired...)

As I have said before, in a lot of ways, resolution would be good at this point......good or bad.