lots to say without much time. Just know that both h and I served in the first Gulf War and neither had affairs that I know of. I know I was tempted partly b/c it's intense and partly b/c h was so busy and tired in his internship...
But I didn't do it, I saw a chaplain, a shrink and got through the deal. Without adultery. It IS doable.
FWIW, My older brother got married over a year ago and then shipped out. He is in Iraq another month. I KNOW he has not cheated, as much as I can know anything. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
HELP!!! Will I ever feel like my H is MINE again? Will I ever get over the feeling that he shared himself w/ OW (plural) and I'm constantly trying to dig myself out of the hole of feeling like I constantly need to be better than I feel like I am? Will I ever get over feeling like I'm constantly trying to prove MYSELF as being worthy?
I know in my mind that the A's were HIS issues, but I can't quit feeling like I am worthless or not enough and never will be.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
I know in my mind that the A's were HIS issues, but I can't quit feeling like I am worthless or not enough and never will be.
One thing I know for sure and that is that there is not one person who is fighting for their marriage that is worthless. You are standing up for what you KNOW is right and good. YOU ARE a GREAT person - don't ever forget that. Even with all of my H blaming and anger, I will never allow him to make me feel worthless. You are more than enough and your H is a fool.
I’m right there with you. I feel that my W is in another world and will not let me in to save her. It seems stupid that we have been married for 16 years and so much is depending on a simple game of pool. If she goes with me I feel I am slowly breaking down her force field. Everything we have been through together. We lost a baby, parents passing away. And I would be a little happier this weeks end if she just went out with me. Like you I feel like a third party. I know it’s not me but like you I feel cheap. Like I’m not worth her love but some guy she hasn’t seen in 16 years meets up one day and he is worth it. My W is at her C meeting right now. Last week she said she was going to ask her C if I can come in and talk also. That was last week she may have forgotten. But if she didn’t again I would feel like she is letting me into her alternate universe. It seems WE ALL HAVE ARE WEAK DAYS. You have given me strength. I need you to stay strong so when I have my bad day I can lean on you…..take care
H
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
