Thanks! You are right I already know enough details. I know where they are living and even found a photo of her online. You are right it really is only for my curiousty and will do nothing but hurt me more so I will leave it alone.
Interesting text message conversation with my H last nite. After he learned of my Dad's accident, he sent me a text asking how he was doing. Here is how the conversation(text message) went.
H: How's your Dad? M: Alive Then I realized how rude that was on my part, So I sent. M: Sorry been a very bad long day. Dad is okay. H: Is your bad day all due to your Dad or is there more going on M: Mainly Dad and juggling my business, the dogs and the sick dog's vet appt. H: Anything I can do for you? M: You know H after standing at my Dad's bedside and him asking if you knew about the amputaton and I said yeah Dad I sent him a text and a tear rolls down his face, I really just can't answer that question. H: If I was supposed to be there I am sorry I was out of town til now. I don't know what your parents know about our situation and wouldn't think I would be welcome anyway. M: They know what I know. That you left and haven't told me what's happening and that all I ask is that they pray for you. So they pray. You are always welcome home. That's what family is all about.
That was the end of the conversation. So, now I lay low and not say anything else. Right guys? Was I wrong to let him know he is welcome home? How could I have handled this better DB?
DSH, You did exactly what I'd have done. And my H does ask about my dad often. He knows that my dad would welcome him in if he ever went to visit. He even mentioned one time that he thought of stopping to visit as he was within a couple miles. He ended up being in a car with others, so did't stop. I don't know if he actually would have, but, he knew he could. And, my dad does know the full extent of this. I even mentioned to H once that my dad tells me to hang in there, these things tend to pass. I just wanted him to know that my family would welcome him back, and that shouldn't ever be a roadblock to him, if he should choose to come home.
DSH, I should add, that they definately don't want a steady diet of that kind of conversation. Because, in a round about way, it is reminding them of what they've done to us. Once
