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wow RMG, a new Acura. thats styling!

I have no interest in rubbing my wifes nose in anything either. she knows the drill. she seems at peace with me leaving, I get the occasional comment about "all the girlfriends I have" fact is, I have none, haven't been looking, and probably won't for a while.

I also need to step up and get a new ride. just nothing in particular stands out to me right now.

no rush on anything, I have the rest of my life to figure it all out, and thats suits me fine.

RMG,,I want a ride! At least you didn't act as if you were having the MLC and purchase a Hummer like my H did!

You are GALing after doing what you could to save your M,,i'm sure, after reading some of your posts, that she got it but decided to do nothing about it,,,soooo, I think its' time you had some happiness in your life and don't let anyone else on this BB discourage you from doing so,,this is YOUR LIFE NOT THEIRS!! Got it??

I've got to hand it to ya,,you hung in there for a long time supporting your exW's PMA, so to speak, now its' time for all of us to support yours where ever you decide to post!

Peace be with you, friend!

"The Denver Contingency" should meet twice a month for a beer,,whatcha think??

Kim

of course RMG is buying.

he has 3 new Acura's and a house in Castle Pines. maybe it's TWO houses there?

RMG,
Glad to see you back. Sorry for the D it does suck. I am going through that now.

Do what you need to do for you. If you are keeping yourself happy then there is no one that can say or do anything to change that and that includes people on here.

You are free to do whatever YOU want. just make sure it is really want YOU want to do first.

Seems like you are doing pretty good all considering

Take care,
O

Kim07,

I appreciate your post. I have to admit I have read many of your posts because of your name and location. It seems like you have been through a lot as well. I truly hope you find happiness and peace in the future.

As for my sitch, I have placed it all in God’s hands. Deep down, I know my exW could never kill her feelings for me; she and I have been through too much in the roughly 14 years of friendship, dating, and marriage. She knows the type of guy I really am in spite of all she has said. The real question is what she chooses to do with those feelings once they surface again; I know they will in time.

At this point, I am getting to know an eclectic group of ladies. It has become difficult to talk with and e-mail them as much as I would like; it has become tough to juggle all of them. I am not jumping into anything serious right now.

We will definitely have to get the "The Denver Contingency" together some time; PM me when you have a chance.

Take Care,

RMG

Hi RMG, nice choice on the ride my man! What you said about your exW never being able to kill feelings for you really struck a cord with me. There IS love there between you two and while I can understand that you dating may seem odd to some here, you are absolutely right in that you should not feel bad for your actions. Sometimes it is just nice to have the feelings that we have had going on for so long (wondering, fear, jealousy,etc.) reciprocated. Take care

O,

Thanks for stopping by my thread! It has been an incredibly tough journey for me. I am going on with my life as if my exW and our marriage never existed.

The ironic thing is the night before she left to get married to husband number one, I told her, "It will never be over." I think she expected me to say that again this time...

RMG

Separated4Now,

Yes, there IS love between us. The problem is she is too numb inside to feel it. She may also just be so afraid of feeling it; as twisted as it sounds, I believe she associates her love for me with pain. This is truly an illusion.

I guess of all this may have snapped her to back to reality for a brief second. I really wish she would come out of the tunnel and actually talk to me heart to heart. For the record, I would be willing to talk about M, D and R whenever she wants. However, she would need to initiate that. She knows all of my phone numbers and e-mail addresses. Beyond that, I will have no contact with her.

As for the other ladies, I agree; it is good to have those feeling reciprocated. It is also refreshing to have ladies who are not hardened and really want to engage in open communication.

RMG

RGM,

I think exW is still letting you know that she is out there & is questioning/taking notice of what you are doing. Remain calm & be honest if/when she asks you any questions.

Like you, I am learning to become more patient. My flaw was always having to be in control, have things scheduled & know what & where I was going. Now, I am still trying to learn how to enjoy the day/moment & b gratefull what the Lord has given me.

Welcome to the world of SUVs. I'm in one too w/a sunroof.

Sending you PMA!

RMG,
I am in the process as well. Unfortunately, I still have all of the crap to deal with still. Head spinning and all that Jazz but for the most part just trying to move on with my life for me and the Kids. Glad to see that you are in a good place. By the way nice car.