I think maybe that you are fcusing too much on weather he orgasams. I am HD and my goal is NOT the orgasam. Heck, it is not even the sex. The goal is to have a woman that WANTS ME. How a woman wants can come in many ways, but the key is it must be something physical in nature, IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE SEX. It is all about DESIRE, sex is only one physical way that Desire is expressed. THere are MANY physcial things that can be done that would make him feel like a million bucks that don't involve orgasams.
Is that a typical guy's response though? I guess, yes, I am focusing on it a lot b/c of his reaction the first time it happened.
I have not initiated, nor has he, since it happened. I plan to tonight & see what happens.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
There are some guys who are pretty much in it for the sex only. I prefer the whol gamut of physical activities. The orgasam to me is the icing on the cake. There are tons of physical activies that actually make up the cake, like cuddling, kissing, petting, teasing, being playful, mainly, JUST BEING HORNY and seeing where it goes from there. What often happens in SSM is that when the ld women trys to correct things, all she hears is that her husband needs more sex, and that is often NOT the case.
