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I fear that D9 will grow up like her mom. That she will think it is okay to leave her husband while she's off partying.

I also fear that if I leave my W that my D9 will think I've abandon her.

Finally I fear that the miserable life I live with my W will be the norm and not an exception.

Fixer

Liss,

I feared this thread ... I have turned away from it so many times since you put it up yesterday. The first time I looked, you were the only one to have written anything. I have come here many times trying to come to grips with my fears ... so here goes (I am all teary eyed now,great)

I fear spending the second half of my life as a relationship failure.

I fear spending the second half of my life broke, lonely, unloved, bitter, as the "crazy old lady down the block" who all of the school kids run from.

I fear that my first love will never return, never love me again.

I fear that my children will hate me.

I fear that I will live and die alone.

I fear never loving or being loved again.

I fear that I will continue to be alone in a room full of people, never really connecting or clicking with people again.

I fear seeing my H with someone else.

I fear that he seems so happy with his decision and that he will be angry with me forever.

I fear my court date.

I fear that God will not answer my prayers.

(((((((((((((Ever))))))))))
I thought of this as an exercise, WE can right down our fears, I will RUN THEM OVER big time

and say FREEDOM, just to at least give us peace from these fears for one day, one minute.

HAve you noticed that all our fears are the same?

I fear that i won't be able to lose weight

I wanted everyone to see, that we all have the same fears, ad it is ok to have them.

It is ok to express them.

It is ok to look at those stupid fears in the eyes one day and say NO MORE.

love you guys

I fear I did not learn the lesson!!!
I fear my children will be in therapy for a billion years
I fear I will make the same mistakes again
I fear I will be laid off from my job
I fear that everyone thinks I am a fluffball idiot with nothing deeper inside than a flirty nature and quick comebacks
I am afraid that I am so untrusting that I will sabbatage anything good coming my way
I am afraid that when someone tries to make a connection my poor battered self-esteem won't even recognize it
I fear that everything LSS has told other people about me might be true
I am afraid to meet new people
I am afraid to go on a date
I am afraid to want to go on a date

I wrote more fears down today becuas ewhen I wrote the otherones down I felt better...Lissie is right...when we name them they don't have so much power over us!!!

I fear that my W has abandoned God and she will be forever separated from Him.

I fear my children will be hurt so much by my W's hypocrisy that they will abandon God.

I fear she and I will never be real friends again.

I love this thread, and sort of dread it at the same time. But it's good.

Here it is for me...

I fear depression, that feeling of being so low you have to reach UP to touch BOTTOM.

I fear that feeling of being pushed under.

I fear that I have to remember all the insane hurtful things I have enduring for 18 months for the rest of my life

I fear facing these fears, for fear of not getting up from it again.

Liss, I think you must have skipped my fears for they are once again knocking at my door....

Knock, knock, knock..... knock, knock, knock, knock, knock, knock, knock.......

keep a knockin' but you can't come in (ba dum da dum)

Lissett,
Thank you for this thread! It's just what I needed. My list may be long, so I apologize in advance.

I fear that my H will never wake up from his MLC

I fear that my H will never find love for me again

I fear that my H will be with ow forever

I fear that the ow will become pregnant by my H

I fear that the ow and my H are perfect for each other

I fear that my children and I will be living in poverty

I fear the unknown

I fear being divorced

I fear never being with my H again

I fear that my children will love the ow

I fear that everyone else will accept the ow

I fear that I will have no place to live

I fear that my H truly doesn't love me

I fear that my H truly loves the ow

I fear that my family will never forgive my H

I fear that I will never forgive my H

I fear that I will always compare myself to the ow

I fear of being alone the rest of my life

I fear that it was just me my H was unhappy with

Ok, I think that is enough for now.

FREEDOM!

Mrshurting

THis is my list EXACTLY!

I love you sweetpea

FREEDOM!